I'm going to take a moment to gripe here.
I have been divorced for almost four years, during which time my ex-husband has paid child support for less than a year. Now he is over $11,000 in arrears. What happens to him? Pretty much nothing. The only thing I am aware of is that he has received letters stating that his balance will affect his credit score -- big whoop he has terrible credit anyway. He is a twenty something, able bodied man who just refuses to step up and take care of his child.
When he refuses to work, his child still needs to eat, she still needs clothes, she still needs insurance. If I refused to provide these to her, I would sit in jail for neglect. It just absolutely boggles my mind what little recourse custodial parents have when a deadbeat parent chooses to drop out of their child's life. In my opinion, if these parents aren't actively pursuing work, they should sit in jail because it is truly criminal what they do to their children.
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Damn girl I would be mad too. It truly is not fair. I haven't been in your position, but just reading this furiates me. (is that a word?)
I never had to go through that, but I know people who have. Strange system we have here isn't it? I wish you the best.
I feel ya on that! My ex is a bit further in arrears and is actually looking at another stay in jail as a result. Funny part? He called to ask if I could get the DCSE off his back... because he has a new family to support. Um, excuse me? You also have to support the child that has been around for 12 years!
Good luck!
I hope for his daughter's sake he grows up a bit & does the right thing by her. She's a lucky girl to have such a responsible loving mom though! Hang in there!
I totally agree. My ex hasn't been working since November (his MOTHER has been paying his child support!) and last month he had the nerve to file for custody of our daughter (because he wants her SSDI income) claiming I abuse her! His request was denied and the judge made an order for visitation, three hours twice a week. The first visit was this past Monday, he showed up for LESS THAN AN HOUR! I think what you say about putting deadbeat dads in jail makes a lot of sense, if they can't be bothered to support their kids there should be some sort of real punishment.
Hey agoodwitch, I hear ya! My ex has been talking about having a baby with his current girlfriend "so he can have a child he can raise". Hello? What about the two teenagers he's left fatherless?
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